Time: The Truth About Teen Girls

Time magazine recently had an article titled "The Truth About Teen Girls".

One of the paragraphs in this article says,

We idealize youth and sexiness but recoil if our young want to be sexy. What has complicated things recently is that girls are literally getting older younger. Their bodies are hitting physical maturity sooner, often before they are ready to deal with the issues of sexuality that go along with it. According to Jane Brown, a journalism professor at the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill, "Twelve-to-14-year-old girls who start puberty earlier are more interested in sexual content in the media." Brown's studies found that adolescents whose media diet was rich in sexual content were more than twice as likely as others to have had sex by the time they were 16.

What is the sexual content of the media your teen (both boys and girls) consumes? The Time magazine article mentions shows like The O.C., with "multiple sexual partners, the cocaine use, and then at the end, they drink, they drive, they set fires, but all is well! There are never any consequences." Consider watching these shows with your teen and talk about the content. How do your family values relate to the content? How do your religious values relate to the content?

Some studies seem to show that "teens are less susceptible to media firestorms that galvanize the grownups, like those set off by a famous pregnant person or a seminaked tween star. But when most outlets say the same thing, the effect can be overwhelming. "We call this the drip-drip vs. the drench effect," says Brown." So, if any one particular episode isn't "so bad", there can still be a cumulative effect.

The article says that girls aren't necessarily trying to look sexy, just older, more grown up. "The real problems arise when the media unanimously suggest that hotness is the only identity worth trying on. And when they venerate physical desirability in young women without explaining how to use it responsibly. And when they define desirability in such a narrow fashion that many girls feel they have to amp up their sexual signals to measure up. One of the clear findings last year of the APA task force was that an early emphasis on sexuality stunts girls' development in other areas." Talk to your teens about identity. What are the components of their identity? Do some components have more value to them than other components do? In your family and your religious expression, what is the responsible use of physical desirability? What are the irresponsible uses of physical desirability?

The article continues:
Should girls fear that they don't have the requisite hotness, there's a surefire way to overcome that: find a boy to sleep with. "They're subconsciously looking for love," says Amanda Ireland, another Gloucester teen. "They think, If I have a baby, I'll be someone. It gives them an identity." What do your teens think about these statements? Are they looking for love? Do they feel that sex can buy them the love they want? What social credit would they receive from their peers if they were to become sexually active, or if they were to have a baby?